5 reasons you need to adventure with your partner
You may have heard people refer to canoes as ‘divorce boats’. We get that. There’s nothing that brings out your true feelings like being sat somewhere a bit terrifying and having to work as a team to make sure you navigate your way safely. It’s frustrating when the boat doesn’t do what you want because your partner is ‘doing it wrong’, add this to tiredness and fear and you’ve got an argument waiting to happen!
Mountain walking is another great example. When you factor in changing weather conditions, steep climbs, fear on exposed places and tired legs, a simple navigational error can push your relationship to the limits. You either work it out or fight it out.
Nothing teaches compassion and patience like going through a challenge together. There will be times in a relationship that you must face challenges you never saw coming, but introduce a bit of adventure and you’ll learn more about each other than you thought there was to know and your relationship will be better for it.
We’ve compiled a list of the 5 most important things you’ll get from your adventures:
1. You learn to be patient with each other
Nothing tests patience like a bit of frustration. If you’re enjoying an adventure together and not everything is going to plan, like 99.9% of adventures, you can get frustrated or you can practice patience. Do the latter and you’ll find that your tolerance grows with each practice and overflows into your everyday relationship. Because if you can get over a map miscalculation in the pouring rain and fog, you can handle being late for dinner or clothes on the bathroom floor. Maybe.
2. You’ll see each other differently
Go out as equals and you’ll be surprised by what you learn about each other. Whether it be that she is mentally stronger than you ever imagined or that he is more patient than you’d known. When you push yourself mentally and physically you show vulnerability and character that you may not have shown each other before.
3. You create shared memories
It gives you something to talk about, plan and look forward to. You also get the shared stories to giggle about over a glass of wine with friends, moments to fall in love all over again and epics that you can bore the grandkids with in the years to come.
4. You get to go on more adventures
When you can find something you both enjoy, you get to do it more often as it counts as a quality day together. It may sound simple, but when you have separate hobbies you need to find time to spend together too. Finding something you can plan, discuss and enjoy together is all part of the fun.
5. It strengthens your relationship for the everyday challenges you face
When you have put yourselves into situations that are uncomfortable and overcome them as a team, the every day challenges don’t seem so hard. Your perspective changes as well as the view you have of each other. There will be times that’ll make you feel vulnerable and need to rely on your other half, let the lessons you learn outside overflow into your everyday and your relationship will be stronger for it.
How to do it
Be equals when it comes to adventure. Yes one of you may have more confidence/experience in a specific discipline, but if you can share those skills you’ll be able to enjoy being outdoors together as a couple, not a leader and a follower! Find something that you can both enjoy, there’s no point trying to convince someone to do an activity they hate. If you don’t enjoy each other’s activities, keep them to yourselves and find a sport you can learn together; check out your local climbing wall, cave or canoe club or take a mountain biking lesson.